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Covert Hypnosis: Experiment with Different Thought Patterns, Attitudes and Intentions

January 6, 2010 by editor Leave a Comment

You see, when people don’t respond positively to you when you meet them, it’s only because of the thoughts you have running through your brain. Start searching and experimenting with different thought patterns, attitudes and intentions. Once you find the success, roll out with it to experience predictable social events – with absolute certainty, covert hypnosis will help you for sure. Now supposing you have found the right thoughts and attitudes to have, now what?

The next step is to simply pace the person. Pacing is nothing more than matching a person. You can match a person’s:

• Gestures

• Posture

• Tone of voice

• Pace at which they speak

• Body movements – even subtle ones like scratching your nose

• Breathing

Naturally, when we share similarities with a person we will already match a person without having to be consciously aware of it or by simply asking “What must the person be thinking, feeling and imagining?” For example, if I’m talking with a person and we begin talking about a subject we both enjoy, we naturally share like interest so our postures, gestures, tone of voice etc…, may already match each others without my having to be consciously aware of it. This, by far is the easiest way to get into rapport. However, we aren’t always this lucky. Sometimes it’s required of you to literally try to “mirror” a person’s unconscious movements by putting forth the conscious effort.

This requires greater skill. How could one have a conversation with a person, pay attention to them, yet at the same time remain aware of how they are talking, moving, breathing etc? Answer: practice. There’s a fine line between offending someone by appearing to “mock” them. Meaning, you don’t have to match them completely right away.

With most people, you’ll find there’s about a 30 second window before a “mirror” move is required. This way, it doesn’t seem like there’s literally a mirror in front of the person and you’re trying desperately to play the role of the image in the mirror.

For example: if a person crosses their legs, you could cross yours in 25 seconds or so instead of right away. If they change their posture from a more relaxed to more “correct” you can do the same about 15 seconds after. Obviously, this appears to be more natural, and eventually the person’s unconscious mind will begin to think “I don’t know why, but I really like this person.”

Once you’ve successfully paced a person and the liking between the both of you has increased, then you can begin to “lead” them.

Gaining rapport with a person is nothing more than appearing to be like the person. Simply pretending to be the person you’re talking to is more than enough, in my opinion. It’s never faulted me. Start there and if anymore skills are required, use the easy to apply techniques taught in this article. Now, once you’ve gained rapport successfully with another, you then begin to make the shift from appearing to be like them to leading them.

Conversational Hypnosis: The Value of Building Rapport

January 4, 2010 by editor 83 Comments

Rapport is simply appearing to another person’s unconscious mind that the two of you are alike. When you’re properly in rapport with another person, they naturally think “I don’t know why, but I really like you!”

People who share like interests naturally find themselves gaining rapport with each other. The best thing you can do to establish rapport is to imagine you can achieve rapport with people easily. This will prove to be a good first step.

Now, when people are in a rapport, they more than likely share the following similarities:

• They breathe together at the same rate

• Their postures match

• They speak at the same pace, tone and pitch

• They use the same gestures

Most of the time, this is all done outside both parties conscious awareness. Since I’m a person who likes to get to know people on a genuine level, I gain rapport quickly with an individual. You can do the same thing.

When you first start communicating with a person, answer in your own mind a very important question and trust the answers that come to you. Ask “What is going on inside the person? What must they be thinking, feeling, imagining?”

And be selective about what you’re thinking…

Even thoughts create energy and it’s been shown that people can “pick up” on your thoughts about them. For example: if you’re angry, a person’s unconscious mind can detect it and may mistake you being angry with them whether your anger is towards them or not.

So it’s very important what you have running through your brain when you’re gaining rapport with others and even during the entire conversation. It only takes one wrong attitude or thought about a person that can break your rapport. Build rapport through conversational hypnosis.